When Men Are "Emotional Camels"Get Advice from Take our Word.com on take-our-word.com. When Men Are "Emotional Camels" topic will increase your understanding on Advice from Take our Word.com. We at take-our-word.com only provide news, articles, information in Advice from Take our Word.com. Advice from Take our Word.com at take-our-word.com provides the most up to date news and articles. If you have questions please do not hesitate to contact us.
Regardless of the area of concern, the truth is that many men are what I call 'emotional camels.' Just like a camel can go forever without water in the heat of the desert, so can many men go without the intimacy, feelings of fulfillment, or the excitement life can offer. Men from all walks of life tend to strive to have a sort of emotional harmony or peace, or what some may call 'an emotional flat-line.' It's not that men don't like feelings, it's that they are willing to sacrifice the highs and lows for the steady, even-keeled experience of life. This is a good thing to them. Most men hate being depressed, or sad, or angry. They want these feelings to go away as quickly as possible, so they can return to their 'flat line' state. While some women also have this same tendency, the majority actually seem to enjoy the wide range of emotions and seem reluctant to get over anything too soon. This can drive a man bonkers, especially since he has to deal with her when she's not happy. He usually wants to help her get out of these 'negative' states so she no longer is a 'problem' to him. Her down times affect him, which threaten to destabilize his current flat line state. While men can live without intimacy for quite a while, they usually can't live without sex of some form, even if it's just with themselves. But masturbation can be just enough to keep him satisfied for the most part for quite a while, yet for women, even those who enjoy sex with themselves regularly, this is not enough for very long. They need the connection with another person, the shared intimacy that gives the sex meaning. Often guys almost prefer the simplicity of masturbation because its quick, easy, and uncomplicated. They don't need the 'heart' thing as much and as often, just the orgasms. Being an emotional camel also translates into men not needing much ego stroking from their partner. That is why men usually give so little of this medicine to the woman in their life. They figure 'If I don't need it, why should she?' Knowing they 'have to' give at least a little, they do, but only what they think is reasonable. The same is true for romance. Most men are relatively 'unmoved' by romantic gestures. It's just not that exciting or important to them. So, they know they should put in more effort to be romantic because it's something their woman wants, but that's usually the only reason. (Unless you are in the initial bliss stages of a relationship - then they'll do just about anything, naturally.) Otherwise, it's more of an issue of guys giving slightly more than they need, which isn't much at all for most men. So, does this all this mean that men are dead emotionally? Not at all! As a matter fact, men are much more emotional than most would believe. But it's different than it is for women. Men get emotional over different things, like sports and driving. They do not lack emotion. It's just that they require very little 'emotional fulfillment' in their day to day lives, and can go for days, weeks, and some even years without a whole lot of the intimacy, the romance, the connection with others, the high highs and low lows. These men aren't broken, that's just the way they are. How does knowing and accepting this help women? First, it changes what things mean such as his lack of enthusiasm for things she cares about, i.e. romance, intimate sex, time with her, etc. etc. It's not that he's bored with her, it's that he is boring. His flatline state is intact and yet she feels something is missing. Something is, but only for her really. Her challenge is to learn how to be happy without expecting him to act, think, and feel like she wants him to. She may learn how to get him to make some adjustments, but his whole personality will not change overnight. Her continued efforts, realistic expectations, and patience will make it more possible to get him out of his trance once in a while to join her the land of the living.
|
Advice Home Business Technology Online Advertising Motivational Internet Marketing SEO Help Online Games Science Articles Happiness More Articles:1. THE THREE KEYS TO SUCCESS You can read everything you can get your hands on aboutacquiring wealth, you can work 'round the clock to achieveyour dreams, and you can try every known method to getahead, but the 'bottom line' is that there really are onlythree keys to success.1. TIMING.'Most successful men have not achieved their distinctionby having some new talent or opportunity presented to them.They have developed the opportunity that was at hand.' -Bruce MartonIt has oft… 2. Discount Shopping -Tips You Need! There's no doubt that discount shopping makes good sense. In fact it makes perfect sense. Why? Because the competition between online retailers is so intense they are constantly lowering their prices on their most popular items to outshine their opponents. Here are some tips for you when shopping for discounts. 1. Search multiple sites before you commit to a particular product -- Sure we have all heard of comparison shopping engines and they are… 3. MAKING THE MOST FROM YOUR "BAD ATTITUDE" To everyone who has ever been told at work that you have a 'bad attitude,' I have a little story I'd like to share that might make your day.At age seventeen, I received my first job-related disciplinary action for my 'attitude,' simply because I wanted to go to a football game.By that time I'd worked at the fast food restaurant for over a year. I'd established myself as a reliable and hard worker, punctual,flexible and eager to learn new things. … 4. Pushing the Envelopes You are inviting the crew to a very special party and you want to raise the bar for the next event. You can start by creating your own envelopes for your very special invitations. You will have the most creative envelope yet.Creating the theme of your party starts with the invitation. This is the first impression that is so very important. After the creation of your masterful invitation, you must not tuck them into plain white envelopes. Highligh… |