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closets in my home, I owned Madeleine pans, exotic juicers, a regular and a gourmet coffeemaker, 3 sets of flatware, 10 tableclothes, 10 sets of placemats for 6 or 8, and formal china tablesettings for 12 … and most “cluttering” of all, a social calendar that was unmanageable. Life is a series of stages, and there is the “acquiring” stage. However, there came a point where I felt overwhelmed by my “blessings” and took a look at what was going on. At the time, my boyfriend, who was a stock broker, kept saying, “Simplify, simplify.” He lived what I considered a “Sparten existence.” It caused me to take a look at the whole picture. I was exhausted all the time. I went to a therapist; too bad there weren’t coaches then. She said I was “trying to do too much.” I interpreted it that I wasn’t capable of handling all these things, and redoubled my efforts. Coaches make things more clear. “Why are you doing what doesn’t bring you pleasure?” would’ve been the question to ask. Eventually I asked myself that question and here are some of the things I did. THE CLOTHES I was still operating from an old childhood scarcity-mentality. I never had “enough” clothes in high school, not because my parents couldn’t afford it, just that they didn’t want to spend their money on that. I started babysitting rigorously to buy myself clothes and makeup and stuff. Not a bad thing to do, but I realized that time was over. I gave a number of things to Goodwill, set aside a space-allotment, and stuck to it. I did have to “dress” for my profession at the time (PR), so I chose two outfits I could accessorize in infinite ways. Scarves, jewelry and pins take far less storage space! THE DOGS Two were strays we had “adopted,” under pressure from my good-hearted son. However, they were difficult dogs, not having been well-raised, and took far more work than our original family pet. I decided to give up this rescuing mentality and at the same time educate my children. We found good homes for two of them, and the family pact was “no more.” We stuck with our one chosen, well-cared for, and well-trained dog. THE ENTERTAINING WARE That’s a hard one. It’s been an abiding interest and love in my life, to entertain with all the accoutrements. I decided that was an okay hobby, but to stick with what I had for a long time. How many sets of Christmas tablemats does one really need? THE COOKWARE Life is choices. I could eliminate a lot of these things by turning to fast food, eating out, less elaborate meals. I decided this was not something to sacrifice. There are health benefits to wok cooking, steamers, double boilers, etc., and 'happy' benefits to beautiful Bundt cakes. My youngest son particularly enjoyed the camaraderie of a fondue meal. Our family dinners were fun for all of us, and a good thing, and I didn’t want to sacrifice that for “convenience.” Not everything in the enriched life should be “efficient.” THE FINANCIAL PICTURE My stocks were scattered all over the place, and we consolidated. It seemed risky to me to “put all my eggs in one basket,” but we did, and it resulted in a nice financial gain. THE ORGANIZATION I decided it wasn’t all that I had that was the problem – many of them were valuable to me and my lifestyle – it was the organization of it all. One thing I did was buy containers, for instance, “fall decorations” and got everything in one place. I added to the box my apparel for that time of year – autumn sweaters, accessories, and jewelry. I labeled them clearly, stacked them in one place, and felt better about it all. I tackled the gift-producing area. I had a bow maker, rolls of paper, ribbons, ready for every occasion. It was a time when the boys would be invited to a birthday party quite suddenly, and it kept me from “running out” at the last minute to buy the wrapping. This I decided to eliminate. The storage space required and the clutter were not worth it, and it seemed I never had the right thing anyway. I bought 10 generic gift bags with white tissue, appropriate for any age or occasion. Also, seeing myself “burdened” by the gifts coming my way – that teddy bear statuette just wasn’t “me” even if it was expensive crystal – I switched to what I call “disposable” gifts. Sending someone a floral arrangement, or a basket of fruit, or a Honey-baked ham would note the occasion, but it would “go away” and they wouldn’t have to find a place for it. I have never been comfortable giving money, but gift certificates seemed possible. It showed at least a little “thought” and “effort,” the two things I find missing in gifts of money. (Not that I’ve ever refused one!) For those with no material needs whatsoever, I would donate money to a charity close to their heart. That is greatly appreciated by most people. Charities list in their newsletter the gifts made in honor of, or in memory of, others, and that’s a nice touch. Re: the people in my life, I took a look at the investment-return ratio. Some of them, I had to admit, were a drain. With me being in a helping profession, some were “using” me for free counseling, while making no improvements in their lives, and that didn’t give me the friendship I needed, or provide for them the counseling or coaching they needed. I made a list of the people who really meant something to me, with whom I had strong mutual bonds, and I whittled away at the ones who didn’t contribute anything to my life. We call this in coaching, “getting rid of tolerations.” Yes, people can be “tolerations” and I think this is one of the more important “ah hahs” Thomas Leonard, the founder of coaching, gave to the world. I eliminated immediately the ones who were a negative drain on me, and took a closer look at ones wanting entry. I quietly discouraged some “friendships” from ever occurring in the first place. Life is choices. I believe that our lives are greatly influenced by the 5 people we spend the most time with. I made sure the Top 5 were the ones I wanted and needed them to be. META-THEORY I decided to slow myself down at the checkout counter. I disciplined myself for 6 months. I would not make any impulse buys. I would go home and consider it. Usually it wasn’t worth the effort to go back. I would not go shopping to “window shop.” There’s no such thing! There’s always something attracts my eye I think I “must have.” Shopping would be a necessity for essentials, not Saturday afternoon entertainment for me and the kids. I put more thought into the things I gave others so as to slow the flow into their lives as well. READY FOR THE NEW YEAR As you participate in, or observe, the shopping frenzy of the holiday season. Ask yourself, “Why am I doing this?” Good reasons are: ·It’s meaningful ·I enjoy it ·I know it’s something I can afford and know it’s something they need or would like Bad reasons are: ·I don’t know why ·To keep up with the Joneses ·Because I always have ·Because you're supposed to Oserve closely your own behavior. That’s the beginning of making positive changes. It’s the emotionally intelligent thing to do!
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